"We’d been having a sort of tacit conversation about it for a couple years. Then one day, his sister, who already knew, was teasing him about having a crush on a boy at school. And I heard him say: ‘Well, maybe it’s true!’ So I said: ‘Son, we’ve never really talked about this. Are you gay?’ And even though he was 6’4”, he came over to me, curled up in my lap and just sobbed and sobbed. It was one of the most beautiful moments of my life, actually.”
For at least the first year of his life, Bernard used to do this every time someone opened the refrigerator.
Anonymous asked: I don't know if this is classified as an eating disorder and I was wondering if you could clarify if in just overreacting I go through fazes of starving my self for a few days and limit my calorie intake for a couple weeks but then I also go weeks without caring and just eating normally it's wierd what could this be
Even if eating-disorder behaviors come and go, they still warrant attention and concern. What lies beneath the behaviors is what is most important. What does the starving and calorie counting do for you? What is going on for you during the times you decide to engage in those behaviors? And what is going on when you don’t? What are you feeling the prompts this? Those are the important questions. Even if you don’t feel “sick” enough, or “disordered” enough, to have a diagnosable problem, that’s not the point. You’re deserving of attention and care and understanding, with or without a “problem”. I hope you can see that, and I hope you reach out about it. You’re worth it. ♥︎
you’re not a blender cat. you’re not going to make me smoothies in the morning.